Introducing a new segment for the Literary Lightworker. In a series of posts, we will provide some resources on cultivating and maintaining Black Love.
Chandra Kamaria: First, for what follows to put in context: I am 76 (white) and have been married to the LOVE OF MY LIFE -- Nancy -- for 51 years.
But in my professional and neighborly life, i meet DAILY wonderful black women to whom, in an alternative life, I could love.
Plus, my professional life has had me work with many wonderful, professional black men, who are kind and cultured and compassionate.
So the idea that relations between women and men are not good in the community is a mystery to me.
Maybe I am naive to something.
But in society at large there are so many men who are rats in the life of any woman unfortunate enough to know them.
Is THAT the phenomenon?
If so, I can assure you, that is not limited to the Community.
That phenomenon is a powerful motivator for a LONG TIME to the feminist movement.
The feminist movement is based on a strong foundation of the strength of women and how well societies do under the administration of women.
But bad men also contribute to the passion of the feminist movement. The Playboy clubs and all were part of Gloria Steinem's insistence that women are SUBJECT, not object.
So that is not new. The bad man.
Is that what you are talking about? I am no stranger to that.
But I have had so many professional contacts with black men and women, each a good, often wonderful experience, that I have cognitive dissonance with the idea that there is something amiss with black men-women relationships, UNLESS, it is like the society at large, with so many bad men disrupting the relational life of women.
But my wife thinks Armando is clueless anyway, so maybe as a man I just don't get it.
How are gay or lesbian relationships in the Community?
Definitely needed. I have grown frustrated with the wrong type of representation being put out in the media.
I am beyond tired. That's why I'm trying to add something of substance.
Chandra Kamaria: First, for what follows to put in context: I am 76 (white) and have been married to the LOVE OF MY LIFE -- Nancy -- for 51 years.
But in my professional and neighborly life, i meet DAILY wonderful black women to whom, in an alternative life, I could love.
Plus, my professional life has had me work with many wonderful, professional black men, who are kind and cultured and compassionate.
So the idea that relations between women and men are not good in the community is a mystery to me.
Maybe I am naive to something.
But in society at large there are so many men who are rats in the life of any woman unfortunate enough to know them.
Is THAT the phenomenon?
If so, I can assure you, that is not limited to the Community.
That phenomenon is a powerful motivator for a LONG TIME to the feminist movement.
The feminist movement is based on a strong foundation of the strength of women and how well societies do under the administration of women.
But bad men also contribute to the passion of the feminist movement. The Playboy clubs and all were part of Gloria Steinem's insistence that women are SUBJECT, not object.
So that is not new. The bad man.
Is that what you are talking about? I am no stranger to that.
But I have had so many professional contacts with black men and women, each a good, often wonderful experience, that I have cognitive dissonance with the idea that there is something amiss with black men-women relationships, UNLESS, it is like the society at large, with so many bad men disrupting the relational life of women.
But my wife thinks Armando is clueless anyway, so maybe as a man I just don't get it.
How are gay or lesbian relationships in the Community?