LLW Lite: Can't Hide Love
A lite piece connected to the Black Love Syllabus
“Well, bless your soul, you can fool a few…I know the truth and so do you…” — Can’t Hide Love by Earth, Wind, and Fire (EWF)
During a rainy Sunday afternoon, EWF is the gospel music pleasantly filling up the house. Sitting down to write this brief piece, the lyrics of my all-time favorite EWF song, Can’t Hide Love, lights up my heart. Maurice White is crooning melodically with a bit of a funky drawl to a woman who clearly doesn’t want to admit that she’s in love with him.
“You want my love and you can’t deny. You know it’s true but you try to hide. You turn down love like it’s really bad. You can’t give what you never had.”
The lyrics sent me on a sauntering of my thoughts and observations about love which is absolutely one of my favorite topics of discussion and writing. Love stays on my mind, in my heart, in my skin and I ponder endlessly about the myriad of ways Love expresses itself. At the same time, there is so much discord collectively and individually. This discord is off key in the beautiful composition of our hearts. It is evident that transparency jolts many and their cognitive dissonance. Denial keeps many people away from the love they claim they don’t want but in the quietest of times, that lie haunts them.
The unwillingness of being vulnerable, first with ourselves, and then with our desired ones creates a stained experience that alters our understanding of Love and its wisdom. Those stained experiences create a dataset within our souls that generates fear-based responses when it comes to opening up to love.
“You can't pretend there's nothing there. Girl, I look in your eyes, I see you care. So why not stop trying to run and hide? You won't find out, if you never try.”
Uncle Maurice is letting this woman know that she has to stop lying to herself, not to him, about what she’s feeling. That’s what many are doing out here; loving a Someone from a distance but will not allow the love to flow in its natural state. Or, many participate in empty encounters as a practice of risk aversion. However, those fuck buddies, Friends with Benefits, and other poorly-labeled involvements stifle the roots of love and leave both parties longing and thirsting for a true connection.
In this new Gregorian calendar year, let us all grow up by reworking our emotional wiring when it comes to love. Unlock all insecurities from that deep place within your soul and lay them out before you. Cut into them, extract the healing and reset your confidence in love. Instead of fluffy positively worded affirmations, speak on your fears about love so you can come real with yourself thus freeing yourself to come real with your desired/loved ones.
Here is a meditations workbook by Ev’Yan Whitney. I have been working in it since the beginning of the year and I am loving how it’s breaking me open. It focuses on your inner workings when it comes to sex and love so you can show up stronger and more fulfilled. This is the first shared resource for the Black Love Syllabus. It’ll be available for three weeks only and then the link will be removed.
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This was so good 😮💨😮💨😮💨 being vulnerable with myself first is something I’ll still working on.
this is heat😮💨🔥